Gramma loved to write and tell stories. And I loved to
sit at her feet and listen. I would love to share some of our favorite stories
and poems today.
In Celebrating Gramma’s life, I think it would be nice
to go back to the beginning and listen to her very words about her start of
life. I can just feel the humidity and hear the mosquitos and southern voices
as I read Gramma’s sweet words. The setting is Hall Summit, Louisiana.
Sis
In
a little log house with cracks in the floor
On
the first day of June, nineteen hundred and four,
The
Midwife was busily boiling the water
For
soon they would have their first little daughter.
Then
suddenly she cried loud and clear,
Their
long awaited Baby was finally here.
Her
silky black hair was just one big curl,
And
eyes were wide open on this pretty little Girl.
John
said to Jimmie, “everything is okay.”
Our
first baby girl will be named Ida Mae!
What
they didn’t know as they gave her a kiss,
The
rest of her life she would be known as “SIS.”
She
worked in the house along with her mother.
Her
dresses were tattered and torn.
She
worked in the fields helping her Brothers,
Planting
and plowing the cotton and corn.
When
this pretty young lady was seventeen
Changes
took place in her life.
A
handsome young man came along one day
And
asked her to be His wife!
On
April eighteen, nineteen twenty two,
William
and Ida whispered, “I do.”
Their
marriage vows, they sealed with a kiss.
For
the rest of their lives, they were “Buck and Sis.”
Times
were tough and the going was rough.
In
Nineteen thirty three
When
on a rainy day in September,
“Sis”
happily gave birth to me.
So
I wanted to tell her in a special way,
How
much I honestly love her.
And
I want to thank God on this Mother’s Day
For
letting her be my mother!!!
Beautiful Valtia, “Gramma” was born in Red River
Parish on September 12, 1933. Her lifetime was full of great years for fashion
and Grandma made sure to wear her wavy hair and red lipstick in the 40s, her
capris, pointy glasses, and red lipstick in the 50s, her flowery dresses and red
lipstick in the 60s, her bell bottoms and red lipstick in the 70s, her neon
joggers and red lipstick in the 80s, her pretty dresses and red lipstick in the
90s and into the next century. She loved her red lipstick.
She had auburn hair and grey eyes. Eyes that turned
blue or green with her moods. I have read that only 2% of the population has
these characteristics and they have very unique and special personalities.
Unique and special pretty much sums up Gramma.
Gramma’s story about Aunt Viola I think sums up her
teen years.
Viola
She
grew up on a farm
with
her brothers and sisters.
When
she left home
They
sure did miss her.
She
was tall and good looking.
She
was sweet as could be.
And
Viola could dance
So
graciously.
You
haven’t seen anything
Until
you’ve seen her dance.
And
you would remember,
If
you ever had the chance.
There
were many great dancers
That
Viola put down,
With
her black hair flying
And
her skirt swingin’ round.
She
would dance from evening
Until
nearly morn.
When
Viola would dance,
“Dirty
Dancing” was born.
The
Old cars we drove
Sometimes
had no brakes.
When
we drove around curves
Our
breath they would take.
And
there were times
When
they looked like
The
front wheels would part.
Sometimes
we had to push them
To
get them to start.
We’d
had old cars and new cars.
Some,
looked like a pretzel.
Ah,
but you should have seen her,
When
she drove her ‘edsel,’
She
would open those red doors.
She
would climb inside
Away
she would go---
Viola
would ride!
We
like to remember
The
things that we did,
Since
we’re older now,
With
a bunch of grandkids.
And
we’re gonna tell you,
If
you like it or not,
How
we love the Lord
And
how He loves us a lot.
Viola’s
my aunt
And
I love her to pieces
But
I just have to boast.
Out
of all her nephews,
And
all her nieces,
I
always knew,
She
loved me the most!
Through these decades, this sweet country girl became the
mom of two boys and three girls, 9 grandchildren, 13 great grandchildren, and 3
great-great grandchildren.
She lived in Louisiana and California, but she loved
Louisiana the most. She loved to write and shared her love in a poem about this
great state.
Living
in Louisiana
There’s
a beautiful old
Magnolia
tree.
An
alligator sleeping
By
a cypress knee.
Pelicans
flying
Far
and near.
Bass
and crane,
And
swift running deer.
Herds
of cattle,
Fields
of hay,
Chickens
and pigs
And
ducks at play.
Majestic
old colonial homes,
Pine
trees shedding
Prickly
cones,
The
superdome, a home
For
the New Orleans saints
To
play the football game.
A
Greenleaf cloak
On
a proud old oak,
Plantations
of sugar cane.
Watermelon
hills, cotton fields,
Fishing
the bayous.
Sailing
the pirogues.
The
downs where
Thoroughbreds
race and canter.
She loved her family more than anything else. She was
kind, and thoughtful. She never missed a birthday for any of them. Everyone got
a birthday card and many got a call and a song. My little boy Joshua has his July
18th birthday card from “Gramma in Luzeanna” sitting on his
nightstand right now. As I was looking for a phone number, I came across a
message I saved from her in January when she called to sing our sweet girl
Happy Birthday. I’ll leave that in my phone for as long as I can. How I love
her sweet voice.
Every Christmas, she made sure everyone got a little
something from her. She took time to make sure it was just the right thing.
Because of my love for the beach, she sent me lighthouse salt and pepper
shakers last year. My daughter asks to play with them all the time. But my
daughter loves her little jewelry box Grandma sent her even more.
She had the same group of four best friends since
first grade. The girls were so close they even shared each other’s gum and
coats in grade school and later lived out life together, growing closer through
every chapter. All my life, I thought they were my Aunts.
My earliest memories with Grandma came in the summers
and weekends of my childhood. PJ and I lived in the sticks of Doyline and Haughton
and she made sure to get us as often as she could and introduce us to important
city things like the mall, the movies, the skating rink, the library, the
swimming pool, feeding the ducks at Betty Virginia Park and Griffs Hamburgers.
To this day, Gramma is the only one I know who will
order a burger fully loaded, but then scrape everything off. She said she loved
the flavor of everything, but not the crunch.
We would all spend the night together and cuddle up in
her bed…Grandma, PJ, Me, Erin. Sometimes other cousins like Sean and Stacey.
Just like my mom does with her three youngest now. One of us would talk so much
(I think it was me) that Grandma would finally exhale and turn the light off.
Only that created more curiosity. As I saw all the little colorful dots in the
air from the light going off, I would ask Grandma what these were. So many
times people don’t see these. But Grandma always got me. She explained to me
they were electricity dots and gave me a good lesson on electricity and Thomas
Edison and the lightbulb. We fell asleep quick then.
Grandma loved everyone and would not tolerate hate or
racism. One day she was driving PJ, me and Erin home from somewhere in
Shreveport, and some men in long robes were protesting in the middle of
Shreveport. It was The Klan. Without missing
a beat, Grandma put her hands up in the air and drove up on the median
toward the guys with a shocked look on her face screaming “I’ve lost control of
my car. Move!!!” She did not lose control of her car. But she did not want
those guys in her peaceful town. They took off running from Gramma!
That was the way she was. She could stop just about
anything and do it with absolute wit, grace, charm and humor. You would be in
trouble and not even realize it until later. But if she raised one her eyebrow
at you, better watch out.
She had the most beautiful laugh of anyone I knew. She
laughed at life, the good and the tough parts too. She laughed at heartache and
sickness and chose to be thankful. If she was in the hospital, she was making a
gratitude list about her favorite doctors and all the things that were NOT
wrong with her. She never focused on what was being treated, just that she had
a great team of doctors and a sound mind.
She really did not like hospitals. One January when
she was in and worried sick she was going to miss the SuperBowl, she kept
trying to prove to them she was ready to go. She’d pace the floor back and
forth to let them know she could get around just great. I am sure she even
considered doing somersaults. She ate all her cheesecake to show them she had
an appetite. So she used her wit. She decided to tell the doctor the name of
every single NFL football team in alphabetical order. Then she told them the
starting quarterbacks. I think they realized she was strong and witty and let
her go home at last.
As I grew older, my Grandma became my dear friend. I
would come over and bring her cake and we would talk and tell stories. I loved to
hear her talk about going to casinos and dancing with my Grandpa, fishing with
her friends, riding in Grandpas bread truck, the alligator that snuck in their
backyard in Natchitoches, the babies she gave birth to and the babies she lost.
She was always at such peace as she shared her heart with me. No matter how
happy or sad the story was, she kept that positive, thankful demeanor. Never
ever was there an ‘if only,’ but it was always God is good.
And as I asked her for marriage advice, she told me to
have a sense of humor. Pick your battles. Love with all your heart even when
you don’t feel like it. Serve others. And don’t look at the bad, but focus on
the good. Write poems about what ticks you off.
Then I found this poem about a nightmare.
Nightmare
In
the middle of the night
I
awoke in fright.
Frightened
by something
I
had dreamed.
I
was falling down a well
As
far as I could tell.
And
nobody heard
When
I screamed.
I
could hear someone laugh.
I
tried opening my mouth.
But
the words just wouldn’t come out.
What
a horrible dream.
You
scream and scream,
And
nobody hears.
Then
you shout.
I
trembled inside.
And
I almost cried
As
I sat on the edge of the bed.
There
was no need to weep.
I
could not sleep.
I
had to get up instead.
I
walked across the floor,
On
my way to the door.
I
wandered about this nightmare,
Going
over it all.
I
walked down the hall
To
get to my favorite chair.
But
the light was dim
In
the room I was in,
When
I turned around to sit down.
Then
I felt myself sink,
And
I started to think,
“He’s
left the darn
seat up again!”
She had so much sass and wit and loved to turn things
around. We all love her trucker poem and believe it needs to be a country
western song.
Trucking
He
walks in the truck stop, a handsome man.
And
flirts with all the women he can.
He’s
very conceited and oh so vain
As
he says to the ladies, “trucking is my game.”
Come
with me babe, I’ll bring you luck.
You’ve
just met a man that drives a truck.
In
my eighteen wheeler I’m sitting pretty
And
I’ve got a girl in every city.
Just
when they think I’ll stick around
I
find me a woman in another town.
And
today I’m looking for someone new.
You
seem to be feeling kind of blue.
Your
rabbit’s foot just brought you luck.
You’ve
just met a man that drives a truck.
Well,
hello trucker, I like your style.
But
I can match you mile for mile.
In
my eighteen wheeler, I’m getting down
And
I leave men in every town.
Today
I’m looking for someone new.
You
seem to be feeling kind of blue.
So
come on baby, trust your luck.
You’ve
just met a woman that drives a truck.
Indeed, Gramma would not go back and change things.
She was pulled over one Mother’s Day and never let it go. In fact her run in
with the law became a series of poems about Bad Billy Joe that were read on the
radio in Shreveport and Hall Summit.
Hall
Summits Hero
I’ve
got a gun on my hip and a pen in my hand,
And
I’ll get you for speeding for I’m a law man.
I
don’t care if you’re young, don’t care if you’re old.
When
you drive in my town, better do what you’re told.
I
was put here to guard and I’ll come down on you hard,
Says
Hall Summit’s hero, Bad Billy Joe!
You
say forty five, but I see fifty five,
Tell
me old woman, where’d do you learn how to drive?
You
can’t show me anything that I haven’t seen.
I
know you’re gonna tell me, your record is clean.
Speeding
through my town wasn’t meant to be, but,
Old
women and kids won’t listen to me!
When
you drive in my town, you should drive slow.
My
radar will catch you and I won’t let you
go.
Says
Hall Summit’s Hero, Bad Billy Joe.
Now
you take this ticket and get out of town.
You
come to court on the day I wrote down.
I’ll
keep your license til you bring me the money,
And
I’m warning you lady, don’t you try nothing funny.
I
sure hit the jackpot on this Mother’s Day.
Whoever
said writing tickets don’t pay?
I
wrote three in one hour. Now how’s that for power?
My
radar is beeping and I’ve got to go!
Says
Hall Summit’s Hero, Bad Billy Joe.
Gramma loved to write and wrote until she could not
see anymore. As her eyes began to fail, she would not accept one failed drivers
test. And decided to look up every DPS office in a 50 mile radius and take the
test over and over again. She finally had to give up on driving as her eyes
became worse. That did not stop her sweet loving thankful sassy spirit. No way.
What I like to think right now is that this wonderful
woman has eyes to see again. She is in Heaven with Tom Landry and her mom and
dad and so many more and she can see how beautiful you are. She has a whole
body. She is dancing and looking at sunsets, sunrises, her beautiful family
that she loves so much. She can see better than any of us right now.
On those long afternoons sitting by her side listening
to her story, I often asked her about the meaning of life, why it all matters, what
wisdom she wanted her legacy to know.
She told me that most people overthink this. And most
people think too much of themselves.
We need to think of others greater than ourselves. Be
selfless. Think of others. Love God with all your heart. Love others. Be Kind. Be
thoughtful. Be Brave. Laugh. The trials we go through are only making us
stronger, bringing us closer to God and preparing us to help someone going
through something similar down the road. Love God and love others. Think of
others. Be Brave. Be Kind.
This is what it’s all about.
This is what it’s all about.